Everyone is familiar with the expression : “Fake it until you make it.” I’ve also heard: “Fake it until you become it, get it, achieve it, etc.” I believe that this expression defies the purpose of the “making” part of it.
Think about for a moment.. If you are trying to fake it, you are deliberately sending the message to your brain that whatever it is that you are trying to accomplish is not real, therefore you are faking it.
We all know the creation process: it appears in your imagination first but in order for it to be manifested, it needs to be filled with own powerful and creative energy. And if you are faking it, it is going to be reflected in your energy, your efforts, attitudes, actions, which will appear to be fake. People spot inauthenticity right away. Most of the time, they cannot articulate or explain their reaction, but something doesn’t feel right.. Usually, something doesn’t add up when you are faking it. But you won’t make it unless you are real, honest and authentic.
It is obvious that you cannot be an expert and super successful right away, but the world always perceives you the way you project yourself to it. People don’t care how much know until they know how much you care. The results you are getting in your life always come from within you, your personality- your ability to think, behave and act. We often times underestimate the importance of the “be-do-have” sequence. There is no place for “faking” in any of the above. If you are not real in the “be part” – you are faking to be confident, you are faking to be successful, no matter how work you do, how many efforts you put, you will always sabotage your success. There is no room for fake whatsoever. You just make it. Even if you make mistakes, own them, learn from them. Don’t be afraid of mistakes: if you can’t make a mistake, you cant make anything. Instead of faking it, be honest about it. People connect with authenticity. People buy into something that is genuine and real and not deprived of flaws faster than they buy into something that is perfect and impeccable and totally flawless. People will respect you for your success but they will love you for your failures (that way you don’t come across as perfect, but as real human being with downsides). Faking has never helped anyone and it will never help you.
Become it! Make it! Accomplish it!
SEVEN HABITS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE by Stephen R. Covey
- Be proactive – don’t blame circumstances, choose how to respond to them in an empowering way
- Begin with the end in mind – have clear vision where you want to go, visualize the final result or future you want to achieve.
- Put first things first
- Think win-win – there is enough for everyone. One person’s success does not necessarily require someone else’s failure.
- Understand first before trying to be understood – doing this you can make people around you feel like winners
- Synergize – open your mind to fresh, creative ideas. You become an agent for innovation. You are convinced the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. You value differences between people and build upon those differences
- Sharpen the saw – you have reached the state of interdependence. You are effective and admired by family, friends and coworkers. Nevertheless, constantly improve yourself and retain a relentless eagerness to learn and explore!